When it comes to break-up, people get affected in different ways; some people are totally okay with it and are able to move on smoothly while others do not have the heart to deal with it.
They feel heartbroken, cry, eat ice cream, or travel to clear their minds. In the worst-case scenario, some end up killing themselves. Yes, that’s how serious people can’t deal with the pain of heartbreak.
So, imagine how someone who treats the relationship like handling an egg would feel when the relationship break. It would feel like the world is crushing over that individual., and it’s irrelevant to live.
The question is; After a break-up, what do you do? Whether you got hurt or not;
HERE ARE FOUR THINGS YOU MUST DO AFTER A BREAK-UP
- Don’t rush into another relationship. I repeat, don’t rush into another relationship? People often make the mistake to enter into another relationship right after a break-up because they feel it will help them get over the previous one or forget about their pain. The problem with this action is that the pain you are going through prevents you from seeing what the new person is doing wrong.
It let you accept every bad thing about the person. And when you soon get over the pain and realize your mistake, you are going through another break-up. The sad part is, you will not learn your lesson, you will quickly enter into another relationship and the cycle will go on and on.
- Assess your just ended relationship. This is something many people are guilty of. I believe people don’t do that because they feel the other person is responsible for the break-up. But! After a break-up, there is no need for any blame work! Even when it’s clear whose fault it was. Yeah! Don’t spend your energy doing that.
Invest that into yourself by assessing yourself. What were the things you did right or wrong? How did you handle quarrels? How did you handle conversations? What contributions did you make in the person’s life?
What contributions did the person also make in your life? Think about the whole relationship; the things you need to amend, and the behavior you need not extend into your next relationship. Don’t favor yourself when you are doing this, ’cause you’re not perfect.
- Think about what you want in your next relationship. It is crucial to know what you want in your relationship else you will accept just anything. What are the things you had in your previous relationship and would still want that in the next relationship? What don’t you want a repetition of that in the soon-to-be relationship?
Do you want more independence? Do you want your opinions valued? Do you want more attention or want to be treated like a king or queen? Just think about what will make you enjoy your relationship and make you happy or appreciative.
- Make sure you are ready for the next relationship. Don’t just jump into the next relationship; make sure you are in the right place with yourself, you are emotionally stable, and no more harboring the pain; you can make good judgment.
Just make sure you have learned your lesson after assessing yourself and the previous relationship, now if you are entering into another relationship, you are doing so fully matured or mentally stable and you are not just entering into any relationship.
Break-up is not so easy to handle sometimes, but when it happens, make sure you handle it carefully following the steps listed above. They are for your own benefit. Understand that, even though you endure so much pain and regret after a break-up, suicide is not an option. You are worth more than that.
Source: TheBBCghana.Com
